2023 Sep 11

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck : 不幸から幸福が生まれる

本の概要

Over 10 million copies sold. In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

読んでみて思ったこと

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僕のハイライト

不幸を否定すると、幸福が消える

Happiness Comes from Solving Problems

Negative emotions are a call to action.

The biggest lesson I took from my adventuring was this: absolute freedom, by itself, means nothing.

If there really is no reason to do anything, then there is also no reason to not do anything

Constant positivity is a form of avoidance, not a valid solution to life's problems

成功後に人格も変えようとしてた

Fame and success didn't make him a better person. Nor was it by becoming a better person that he became famous and successful.

完璧な人生じゃない＝自分は不幸

Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest. Be smarter, faster and richer, sexier.

Our society today, through the wonders of consumer culture and hey-look-my-life-is-cooler-than-yours social media, has bred a whole generation of people who believe that having these negative experiences anxiety, fear, guilt, etc. - is totally not okay.

不幸を受け入れることで幸せになれる

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.

Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.

誰もが不幸で苦しんでいる

Life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty. People without a family suffer because they have no family. People with a family suffer because of their family.

永遠に完璧は来ない。動くこと

When we learn something new, we don't go from "wrong" to "right.? Rather, we go from wrong to slightly less wrong.

成功にも代償がある。自分は恐れていた

Manson's law applies to both good and bad things in life. Making a million dollars could threaten your identity just as much as losing all your money; becoming a famous rock star could threaten your identity just as much as losing your job. This is why people are often so afraid of success-for the exact same reason they're afraid of failure

失敗は相対的な指標である

Failure itself is a relative concept.

成功後に成功する人、成功後に成功できない人。誰が気にする？

I then asked myself, "If I try this thing and fail in a few years and have to go get a job anyway, will I have really lost anything?" The answer was no. Instead of a broke and unemployed twenty-two-year-old with no experience, I'd be a broke and unemployed twenty-five-year-old with no experience. Who cares?

方法が見えないなら、手を動かすこと

'If you're stuck on a problem, don't sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don't know what you're doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head."

人間関係で問題が起きたときの法則

if the people in your relationships are selfish and doing hurtful things, it's likely you are too,